I came across this poem this afternoon in another blog I follow, but it does go well with yesterday's post. I wonder these thoughts every day we are in public with Hailey. So many people stop and say Hi to Hailey and rave what a beautiful baby she is. I politely say thank you and agree with them but in the back of my mind, I will always question whether they stopped because she has Down syndrome or did they stop because she truly is a beautiful baby.
See Me For Me
When you look at me -
What do you see?
When you look into my eyes
Do you see beautiful blue,
sparkling with joy, delight
in my accomplishments
Or do you see that "almond shape"
or "brushfield spots"?
When you look at my hands
Do you see them reaching
for toys, writing the alphabet,
throwing a ball, doing a
Or do you see a "simian crease"?
When you look at my face
Do you see the resemblance
to my parents, that I have just had
my hair permed
Or do you see a "flat face" or
When you look at my behavior
Do you see my feelings of
pleasure and anger, my desire
to achieve, my frustration in
being treated like a baby
Or do you see the "stubbornness"?
When you look at my development
Do you see me playing with peers,
participating in sports, growing
into a productive adult
Or do you see "low muscle tone" or
"the eternal child"?
When you look at my family
Do you see loving parents wanting
to challenge me to my ultimate potential,
sisters and brothers who have a better
understanding of the differences in us all?
Or do you see a family torn apart by my
difference, constantly in crisis, unable
to accept, never to feel the joy of
having a "normal child"?
What Do You See?
Look At Me.
See Me For Me.
Written by :
Mary Ellen Graham
Founder of the DSAGC.