Yesterday was a prime example. Hailey and I were having lunch with a dear friend that I had not seen in years. Her back was toward a large group of business men and women, therefore, Hailey and I were facing them. Three women spent a better part of 30 minutes staring at Hailey, whispering and talking. It was evident who they were talking about, but I couldn't hear what they were saying. At one point, I almost picked Hailey up and introduced her to them (my husband thinks I am a little too bold). I didn't even care what they were saying at that point....they were making me uncomfortable. There were no smiles...just whispers. 40 year old women should be considerate enough to smile while staring at someone's child. Hailey wasn't misbehaving...she was simply eating her lunch...nothing out of the ordinary. No food throwing...no tantrum...no yelling. I can't really explain the feeling when someone has singled out your child and stares. Without saying a single word...those women hurt me. They made me sad for my daughter because stares will probably be a part of her world forever.
I realize I was in a small town. Seeing a small child with Down syndrome is not as big of an occurrence in a town with 15,000 as it is in the metro area we live in with a population of just over 2 million. I teach my children not to stare at people....you would think 40 year old women would know basic manners.
So today, I'm spending the day trying to get out of my funk. Trying to put those women and their hard stares out of my mind and focus on my beautiful little girl with the contagious giggles and smiles.
Some of my regular readers might enjoy pics of Hailey with her new cousin. After all the practicing with her doll....she didn't do "too" bad with baby Jax. She "might" have bounced him a "little" too hard in the bouncy seat, but she definitely loves him!
|This is her new look...head tilted with a grin....apparently it gets her whatever she wants!|