With Hailey, I have had mommy guilt but with more intensity. Am I working with her enough? Am I challenging her enough intellectually? Am I pushing her gross motor skills enough? Am I working on find motor skills? What more can I do for speech? Am I spending too much time with Hailey? Am I spending enough time with the boys? Will they resent their sister?
Recently though, the tables are turning. Hailey is attending a LOT of her brothers' activities. Soccer practices and soccer games are consuming about 4 evenings a week and our Saturdays. We try to tag team and only take the child to the field that has practice but with my husband's work schedule that doesn't always work and there are days that both boys have activities at the same time but different places.
Earlier this week we had the 2 children at 2 different places at the same time scenario. I had Hailey with me. We had about 30 minutes to kill while the oldest was in religion class. I gathered a bunch of toys from her backpack and let her play on the van floor. Then it hit me...she had spent Saturday the same way while her brother played soccer in the pouring down rain. I feel bad sometimes. I feel like maybe we aren't giving her the attention she needs to reach her maximum potential.
|Hailey's playroom for the evening|
|I guess she doesn't look too distraught, does she?|
For the record...I do hate mommy guilt :-)
|She doesn't seem scarred for attending too many of big brothers' events :-)|