However, recently, I have become more realistic. People are curious. It is human nature...they want to "know" consequently, they are "nosy". Some people still don't realize that she has Down syndrome but I think overall, they do. Some people know another person with Down syndrome and see her beauty inside and out. Some have never met anyone with Down syndrome and want to know more. Does she sit quietly in the corner like a wallflower? How does she behave? Does she throw tantrums? Is she well-behaved or a hellion? How do her parents act with her? How does she relate to her siblings? Does she talk/babble or is she quiet? Is she "lazy" or does she move around? Is she strong or does low tone mean weak? Is she "sickly"? What can she "do"? I do believe that there are people in this world that are ignorant and will choose to stay that way. I have little patience or energy for them. But the people who are genuinely curious and want to know more...go right ahead...I will answer almost any question you have about my daughter or Down syndrome. I would much rather them ask and be curious than look away and ignore.
Overall, we have not had many bad or uncomfortable experiences. We get the typical, "oh, they are always so happy"...well, she's not a breed of dog...so unless they are referring to all my children lumped together...you can leave out the "they". This person has obviously not seen my daughter when her parents are not getting her bottle quick enough or have left her in the room when she wants held. The girl is NOT always happy....she has a grumpy streak. Some people make odd comments. At preschool drop-off the other morning, a mom said, "oh, I just love it when she sticks her tongue out". This made me cringe. We had been doing so well with keeping Hailey's tongue retracted until she started teething. We are working so hard on it and it was the one thing this mom commented on. I had one lady tell me what a rough road we had ahead of us. I just shrugged and said, "don't all parents"?
To all the people who stare out of curiosity, here are a few answers to your questions....
|She plays well with her brothers|
|They love her very much|
|Her cousins love to play with her|
|She likes everyone to know she is here.|
|She plays with her toys|
|She is mischievous & gets everything she is not supposed to have|
|She is NOT always happy|
|She plays so hard, she doesn't care where she naps|
|Her parents are head over heels for her|
|She has daddy wrapped around her little finger|
I'm happy to help educate anyone on Down syndrome and our "normal" life, but as my mom told me growing up, "if you don't have something nice to say, keep your mouth shut".