Betty asked if we thought Hailey wouldn't walk. Obviously, I responded that there was nothing that gave us that indication and we take everything else as it comes. She then asked, "So long-term, what are you focusing on and what are your concerns?" I told her that we focus on Hailey's intellectual delays and work on Hailey becoming a compassionate, happy, loving young woman. I want her to have her own set of dreams and then follow them. (I can't project my dreams onto her...I can just help her be the best person that Hailey can be).
The response that followed was very simple..."oh...that's it". Betty said she held her typical daughter back in school a year and her daughter still struggles academically. She commented that no one can predict the future for her typical children.
When a friend of mine first explained Down syndrome to her daughter, her daughter had simple questions...will Hailey be able to ride a bike and will she be able to play with the other kids in the neighborhood? Once the little girl received her answer of "yes", her worry seemed eased and she was content.
All this rambling actually does mean something...I wonder how differently the world would view people with Down syndrome if they saw it as simply as these two people did. No, not all the health conditions and concerns that go along with Down syndrome are always simple, but none of us can predict the future for ourselves...for our typical children. We don't put limitations on them. We don't look at them and condemn them to a life of dependency and meaningless jobs. Why do we do that to people with DS and intellectual disabilities? How different would the world be for them, if everyone viewed it as simply as these two individuals did?
Here are a couple pics for those of you that enjoy Hailey's odd sleeping positions and odd nap places:
Hailey's newest entertainment...making faces, waving and laughing at her reflection in the mirror.
|Taking her baby for a stroll|
|Waving bye to her brothers|
|Can you tell that she thinks she is cute?|